We Become What We Think About, All the Time

When we run scripts in our head for long enough, we stop seeing the other options available to us, and we get lazy and start believing our own stories.

by | Apr 27, 2018 | 0 comments

We Become What We Think About, All the Time

I was having a discussion with a friend yesterday about one of my least favourite topics (dating). I consider myself indifferent but not closed to the idea, but she said “Steph, if you always think of yourself as single, you’ll always be single.”

At first I thought “What is she talking about? I’m open to it if it happens, I’m just not pursuing it.” But when I thought further about it, I realized some part of what she was saying was true. When we run scripts in our head for long enough, we stop seeing the other options available to us, and we get lazy and start believing our own stories.

The same is true in business, and the rest of life. Our own stories cripple us without us even knowing.

If you identify as the girl who is bad with money, despite all your best efforts, you will stay that person.

If you think of yourself as “not able to make that kind of cash,” you never will be.

If you tell others that you don’t have leadership qualities, you’ll never develop them.

Our brains love patterns and to identify with something much more than they love challenging themselves constantly.

But here’s the trick: you can use the same behaviour to get the opposite results.

What if you kept telling yourself how you are so excited to become financially stable?

What if you thought constantly about how much you can get done in a day?

What if you focused your meditation on how happy you are to just be exactly where you are?

What if I thought of myself as being half of an amazing partnership that just has to find me still?

Would all these things come true?

Flipping the script and clearing out the cobwebs of our current stories takes courage and a willingness to be uncomfortable for a little while.

But with some discipline and practice noticing and correcting old habits, our new stories set us up to at least make it possible to realize a new reality.

Tell me in the comments…

Where have you become entrenched in a story that can flip? How can you change the script for a new outcome?⠀

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Stephanie Hayes Business Strategist and Coach for Small Business and Entrepreneurs. What to do when you're feeling stuck in your business? How to scale your business to get sustainable growth? Stephanie is a business success coach for experienced entrepreneurs, creating detailed business models and plans (Vancouver).

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